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Photo by Brian Gilmore '02 from White House Retreat Center, overlooking the Mississippi River.
A reflection by John A. Lally ‘80
Look around most people’s homes or offices, and you are bound to see a family photo taken on vacation. Folks from all walks of life make time to get away from work and all that distracts them in order to devote some quality time with those they love most. Spending time with family away from the busyness of modern life strengthens family bonds and nourishes familial relationships.
For the last 30+ years, I have taken an annual vacation with God at White House Retreat (the Jesuit Retreat House of St. Louis). For three quiet days each year, I manage to get away from work and other responsibilities and spend some quality time with the Lord. This three-day getaway has not only helped my relationship with God and prayer life, but also made me a better father, husband, son, brother, and friend.
White House features stunning scenery
and impressive facilities, including a
chapel with beautiful architecture and
stained glass (pictured).
St. Ignatius of Loyola, founder of the Jesuits, developed a compilation of meditations and prayers to help people deepen their relationship with God called The Spiritual Exercises. Ignatius invited his followers to retreat from their daily lives and imaginatively pray The Spiritual Exercises in silence.
Traditionally given over 30 days, the Spiritual Exercises are organized into four sections, or weeks. The object is to help the retreatant sharpen his or her attentiveness, openness and responsiveness to God while contemplating God’s love for us, and our discipleship in light of Christ’s Passion, Death and Resurrection. Put another way, the four weeks focus on self-awareness, self-giving, self-sacrifice and self-understanding. At White House Retreat, The Spiritual Exercises are condensed and “preached” by a Jesuit Priest over a three-day period.
When we consider how noisy, distracting and trying our daily lives can be, the silence, focus and rest of White House Retreat is counter-cultural. St. Ignatius mystically discerned that silence is a foundation for self-reflection and prayer. Pope Benedict XVI once said, “Silence has the capacity to open a space in our inner being in which God can dwell.”
SLUH sponsors two annual alumni retreats at White House. Over the last 30+ years, I have come to know many of my fellow alumni retreatants and am blessed to call them friends. As I learned their stories and understood how they lovingly deal with life’s challenges, I am strengthened by their example of faith. The experience of making the retreat with fellow SLUH alumni is one of solidarity in Christ.
The Lally family name is a familiar one at SLUH.
Pictured (from left): Mike Jr. (SLUH theology
teacher, son of Mike '79), John '80, Dan '82,
Jim '86 and Tom '91 Lally.
Frequently, our alumni retreat is directed by a SLUH alumnus or former teacher/administrator from Backer Memorial. The list of these SLUH-related Jesuits who generously served as alumni retreat directors is most impressive: Burshek, SJ '63, Houlihan, SJ '52, Marchlewski, SJ '54, Bailey, SJ, Cummings, SJ '56, Kavanaugh, SJ '59, Harrison, SJ '75, Holmes, SJ, Doyle, SJ, Martens, SJ '50, Bergen, SJ, Sheridan, SJ, Dressel, SJ '64, Suwalski, SJ, Reale, SJ '69, O’Brien, SJ '45, Murray, SJ, Costello, SJ '47, Brennan, SJ '45.
So what have I learned from 30+ retreats at White House? Just as we desire strong, loving relationships with our families, God desires such relationships with us. Spending a few days away with the Lord fosters those relationships – all of them. My advice: take a vacation with God at White House Retreat.
Tradition Never Graduates
Some alumni make White House an annual – and family – tradition, attending the Jesuit retreat for many years. This January, Tom Hartman '48 celebrated his 50th White House retreat – and he did so with his son Brian '80, Brian's three sons (Tom, Brian and Joe, who graduated from Brophy College Prep, the Jesuit high school in Phoenix, in 2012, 2014 and 2018, respectively) and Brian's brother-in-law, who brought his son and son-in-law.
Hartman sums up his retreat experiences with some lessons learned:
The White House is a refueling stop on the way to eternity.
Faith is fragile and the ability to help reinforce it with family is a necessary and unending obligation.
Success is difficult to measure but worth the effort.
The family that prays together stays together.
Pictured (from left) at White House Retreat in January 2019: David Morton, Brian Hartman (BCP '14), Dave Morton, Joe Hartman (BCP '18), Tommy Hartman (BCP '12), Tom Hartman (SLUH '48), Brian Hartman (SLUH '80) and Rami Weston