Choosing the Right Private High School
With so many excellent options, choosing a private high school in St. Louis can feel more overwhelming than the cereal aisle at the grocery store. Where do you even begin?
As you start asking the inevitable question — “Where did you go to high school?” — below are a few important things to consider during the search process.
Start With Your Values
Before touring campuses or filling out applications, take a step back and think about what matters most to your family. Are you looking for:
- A single-sex or coed environment?
- Strong academic rigor?
- Competitive athletics?
- Clubs, leadership opportunities, and student activities?
- Faith formation and character development?
- Exceptional college placement?
Every school has a unique mission, culture, and curriculum. The right fit is about more than rankings or reputation — it’s about finding a place that aligns with the values and educational experience you want for your child.
Visit. Then Visit Again.
There’s no substitute for stepping onto campus and experiencing a school firsthand.
You can read brochures and scroll websites all day long, but nothing compares to walking the hallways, meeting students and faculty, and getting a feel for the school’s energy and culture.
If you’re considering a selective high school, it’s smart to start exploring early.
For Younger Students (6th Grade and Below)
Attend summer camps, enrichment programs, or annual open houses. These events offer a low-pressure introduction to the school community.
For 7th and 8th Graders
Shadow days and campus visits are invaluable. They allow students to experience a typical academic day and picture themselves there as future students. At SLUH, parents are included in parts of this experience.
Don’t Skip the School Profile
Most schools publish a profile outlining important information such as:
- Academic performance
- ACT and AP scores
- Faculty credentials
- Mission and philosophy
- College acceptances and matriculation
Think of this as the “nuts and bolts” of the school. These details provide a clearer picture of whether the school’s priorities and outcomes align with your family’s expectations.
Understand Admissions Criteria Early
One of the hardest parts of the process is helping your child get excited about a school while also navigating the realities of admissions.
As demographics shift and applications increase, some schools are becoming more competitive than ever. Understanding admission criteria well before applying can help you prepare appropriately — academically, socially, and emotionally.
Talk to Current Families
Speaking with a current parent gives you real-time insight into the student experience — beyond what you’ll find in brochures or presentations. They can answer practical questions, share honest perspectives, and help you better understand what daily life at the school actually feels like.
Many admissions offices can even connect you with a family whose child shares similar interests, whether that’s athletics, academics, arts, or extracurricular activities.
Final Thoughts
Choosing a high school is a major decision — not just academically, but socially and personally. The goal isn’t to find the “best” school overall, but the best fit for your child and your family.
Take your time. Ask questions. Visit often. And trust the process.
Because four years goes fast — and finding the right community can make all the difference.
About the Author
Ann Murphy serves as Director of Admissions at St. Louis University High. Each year, she works with hundreds of prospective families as they explore high school options and discern the best fit for their sons. Her passion is helping students find a community where they can grow academically, personally and spiritually.